Dear "One of the Guys"

Dear Roxy,

So I just read your post about pretty face, and I need your help. All my life I've been know as the fat girl, the girl thats's one of the guys, because. 1. I'm the one guys never look at, because I am one of the guys, because of my low self esteem it causes me to dress super manly, jeans a tshirt, and my chucks.. When i wear a dress for a special occasion, or even try to wear shorts and a blouse, I feel so disgusting, and out of place.. My family has a history of being over weight and diabetes, but my moms side my grandmothers side to be exact, they're are all skinny and petite, my grandmother refuses to let me go to Mexico with her, because she says, "the people are very judgemental there." My mom is trying her hardest to lose weight, but when I ask her if I can join, she will not let me, I feel as if she wants to be the only one to accomplish, because since I have told her about this, all she makes or buys is fattening foods, and talks down on my weight. But my other problem is, guys who think my self esteem is so low, they treat me like an object. They'll sweet talk me, try to have sex with me, and just leave me hanging and say, you're not my type.. And that made me feel like trash where I gave up on guys, the first person I loved and loved me back, cheated on me for a beautiful girl with a nice body. As it is I already have a problem.. I can eat all day anything, even when I'm full, I see food I eat it. When it comes to dinner, I eat one plate, and I HAVE to get seconds.. All this has really taken a toll on me, I feel like my bodies not bad, but I have a wierd body figure, no butt, small boobs very little curves, a wide belly, back fat, big arms knocked kneed with a double chin. I need your help, when it comes to diet and excersizing.. I have very little money for the gym. And Idk how I can work out at home, I feel no motivation to do so since I have no idea what I'm doing, my body does this thing where I can eat healthy for a few days, and I can drop inches but the number will always be the same, yet the minute I see food I like.. I just want to devour it, and I gain in double.. I don't know how to eat healthy, this is all a struggle for me. I want to be healthy, and I also want to feel pretty, especially because my 21st birthday is in August of next year, and I want to wear a dress that "wow's!" everyone. Can you please help..   

p.s.. You are one of my insirarions ❤️💖

Love, 

"One of the Guys" 

 

 

Dear " One of the guys"

Pacoima, CA

 

I'm sure I say this a lot but, reading your email I felt like I was reading the journal I kept as a teenager........I can feel your frustration and sadness through your email. It really touched my heart but, I'm going have to give you a small dose of tough love k. It seems to me like you are relying too much on others. You rely on your mother to help you with losing weight, You rely on men to make you feel pretty, rely on others for approval (a lot of us usually do). People will disappoint you, people will never truly understand you more than you will, You know You. If your mother would gladly offer to help I would say "heck yeah take it" but since she's not, you cant just give up. I first started losing weight on my trip to visit my family in Guatemala (and yes people talked a lot about my weight). It was so hot I simply lost my appetite and when I came back to LA I found out I had lost 10lbs and that motivated me. I did my research, I took on extra shifts at work to be able to afford my new healthy lifestyle. I distance myself a tad bit from my family and friends to focus on my goal.  That way I didn't have to hear negative comments or be tempted to do anything that could make me fall back into my hold habits. I took very small steps and made so many mistakes but eventually I caught on. I went from being able to only run for 2 minutes at a time to running for 2 hours non stop. I had no help, I did it all on my own and I feel so damn proud to say that too.

You cant rely on men to make you feel pretty my love. A lot of people say " You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else" and I never really understood what that meant till now. You have to figure out who you are and who you aren't and accept the perfections along with your flaws. I got cheated on too and trust me that shit lowers your self esteem like nothing else can but you cant let that happen. People cheat on attractive and not so attractive people and they will cheat with an attractive or a not so attractive person but whoever they cheat on you with usually has absolutely nothing to do with you, and I really need you to remember that.

Being one of the guys isn't such a bad thing. That's how I felt but try not to look for love, let it find you and in the mean time focus on you and work accomplishing your goals.

Wear what you want to wear. If you feel comfortable wearing your t shirts then by all means do it, theres absolutely nothing wrong with that but if you want to wear a dress then wear a dress and instead of giving yourself negative comments, compliment yourself. We can be our worst enemies. Focus on you.

When you really want something you don't find excuses you find ways to make it happen. If you cant afford a gym, workout at home. You can find everything on youtube, on books, on the internet. Start small, go for a walk or run around your neighborhood 3x a week (if its safe). Try to get at least 30min of physical activity everyday. unfortunately I cant give you will power (if I could I would, trust me) that's all up to you. Make an inspirational board and look through it every morning, that will help you start your day on a positive note. I purchased a calorie book (it literally lists the calorie count of almost all foods), I wrote down everything I ate (EVERYTHING) so I could keep track of my eating habits. Discipline and determination are key to weight loss, but you just have to be willing to put in the work

I truly hope this helps. You got this Babygirl. You've gone though so much this should be a piece of cake. Remember your weight doesn't define you, It doesn't make you a better person and it doesn't make you a bad person. Inner beauty determines that. You got this!

Love Roxy.

 

p.s. I would love to help you pick out a dress for your 21st Bday! ( a little Inspirations)

Dear "Pretty Face",

Dear Roxy.

So i sent you an email on both of the emails that i know of because i did not know which you're using..

I've been telling myself i wanted to email you for a long time now but somehow i always postpone it because i say that how I'm feeling will get better. Since i was 13 I've been dealing with my weight, being bigger than my friends, and family comments " you should go on a diet" " you have such a pretty face,but if you loose you ll even be prettier".. and i always grew up thinking i never had a good body because of the society we live in. After i started Psychology as my major, it actually helped me to love my body more and learn that it was all just a wrong image that society gave.

Then came a time,i had lost 17kilos all together and i gained self esteem,i was on top! Guys i wanted,i got.Compliments i wanted,i got. Family looked at me differently too,it was great! 

Right now, my boyfriend calls my body type curvy and i learned to love it. I am curvy and i know I'm not over weight or obese in an unhealthy weight. I go to the gym,i love the gym.i eat everything and i watch out. But these past few days,I've been feeling like crap. I was 4kilos away from my first goal,which was 65,then i gained 4kilos again and since i saw that i just hate it. Every time i eat,i feel SO guilty. All week, I count everything i eat and then theres a voice in my head "you re so fat you don't deserve to eat that" or " you can't afford to have even a small piece". Its so tiring.. Saturday i have my brothers engagement and I'm so worried about how I'm going to look,luckily I'm wearing really high heels.. but I'm dreading my arms so much. I hate them and sometimes i force myself not to wear short sleeves..How do you deal with the days where you don't feel that good? You re always so stylish and beautiful, and when it comes to me being stylish i always say oh I'm too fat to be stylish,nothing looks good on me. I feel pretty all the time when it comes to my face,but looking down can ruin everything..I always find myself comparing other girls to me to make sure I'm still in a "okay size"..Im not asking for healthy tips or exercise tips because I've known them since forever.. but all i need is,I'm not even sure, but i just need to feel okay about all of this..

Im sorry for the long email,and please reply back whenever you feel like it and whenever you have free time. Thanks for your posts that give a boost!

- Pretty Face

 

Dear Pretty Face,

 

As crazy as it sounds I know exactly what you're going through. Taking a Psychology class also helped me stop my eating disorder.....I guess finally realizing what triggered my eating disorder also helped me fight it! You said in your email " Right now, my boyfriend calls my body type curvy and I've learned to love it." That's a great thing that boyfriend loves that about you and that you love it too! " I am curvy and I know I'm not over weight or obese in an unhealthy weight."  When a normal person reads that they would say so what's the problem? and the problem is that you are focusing all your time and energy on your weight which leaves to stree, which leads to weight gain! Let it go!!! Set yourself free from the # on your scale ( which I can tell you check often).  Everyone in the world has crappy days you just cant spend too much time in the crappy zone. Do things for yourself, for your health! Own your body. You are so much more than the # on the scale, more than your arms. If you continue to focus on your weight you'll miss out on life. Life is too short to not that piece of cake, Life is too short to not wear short sleeves.

What do I deal with days when I don't feel good? I allow myself to feel what I'm feeling for a couple of hours but I do not let it get to me......... I'm an emotional eater so I try to do things that get me out of my slump. I do things that make me happy or Ill try new things instead of eating my feelings. Do whatever makes you happy. For me a little shopping therapy, lifting heavy weights, zumba, and playing with children usually do the trick. Direct all the energy you are using on your weight and focus it on something else and ill assure you that you that your mood will improve. When I need a little inspiration to get back on the grind , I read peoples success stories. If they did it, If I did it, you can definitely do it!

Thank you so much for being such a loyal follower and I'm so glad you emailed me! Hope this helps! YOU GOT THIS!

XX

All Black Everything

HELLO DOLLS!!!

So here are all the details of my All Black Everything Outfits!

Hope your Holidays are full of Joy and free of stress!

Tag me on your holiday looks so I can feature you!

Muah!

I got this from eBay and I absolutely love it! 

I've seen this dress on IG for $80!

I found it for $25 and it's free Shipping! 

Get it HERE

This is definitely a must have Statement Top!

So different, so stylish,  and it's black and Affordable!! I thought I had died and go w to shopping heaven when I first saw it!

Get yours HERE

I purchased this at a Windsor store in Chicago. I haven't been to a Windsor store in years but they have amazing clothes at such an affordable price!  The price on this skirt was $35! I couldn't believe it so I had one of the sales reps doubt check for me! I purchased three tulle skirts all for $90! Usually they are sold for a minimal of $80 each elsewhere.  Anyways I'm so glad accidentally ran into that store. They don't have this skirt online anymore but check or call your local store. They have midi tulle skirt online that's just as amazing! 

Rudolph, The Red Nose Reindeer

Hello dolls!

So this is the first outfit collage of many more to come!

This outfit Is a classic dress and tights look.

You can never go wrong with it!

Perfect to wear for Christmas and perfect to wear around the family all while look fabulously sassy.

You can substitute the dress with pretty much any skater dress and you'll still get the same look! Try it out tag and I will be sharing it on my blog and IG!

Happy Holidays! 

This beautiful red peplum coat is definitely a statement piece. <3

This dress is from H&M and it's only $14.95!

It's super stretchy so I ended up getting a small!

<3

Love these! They have a tummy control making you look slim! I got mine in an XL and still felt a Little tight. Remember H&M Is a European Brand so their sizes are smaller thn US sizes.

<3

These Gorgeous heels are from Lola Shoetique

<3

Adding a little shine with these simple yet gorgeous pieces also from H&M!!

PUR Minerals Review

 

Hello Dolls!!

I am super excited to share this review with you guys!!

I've finally after years of looking and wasting money on trying to find a product that wa good for my skin......I've finally found it!! And let me tell you its so affordable and good for your skin! I have used pharmacy make-up and skin care item for years and nothing worked for me. the foundations never gave me the coverage I was looking for and/or I could never find a color to match my skin.....I was breaking out a lot. Then I met MAC Cosmetic about a year ago and my skin went crazy but I was so addicted to how great it looked on that I kept using it. Meanwhile I kept purchasing these all natural foundations and cover ups that didn't really look good and they still clogged my pores! With a combination of the chemicals in the MAC foundation, the heat, and dry skin my skin went crazy and I broke out really bad. So bad that I had to keep putting on even more foundation which made me break out even more!! I felt so ugly. When I spoke to people i felt like they were looking at my acne instead of me! So I just stopped using any foundation on my skin. This is the scars that were left behind two months after id stopped using Mac Foundation on my skin.

 

AND THIS IS ONLY ME USING FOUNDATION ON WEEKENDS!!

 

 

Tired of how bad my skin looked I went on trying different mineral foundations until a sales associate at ULTA recommended I give PUR MINERALS a try. I told her about my situation and that I wanted a light coverage. She used PUR MINERALS 4-in-1 Pressed Mineral Makeup Foundation with Skincare Ingredients on one side of my face and then used 4-in-1 Liquid Mineral Foundation on the other side. The powder could be used as a light coverage and the liquid as a full coverage and let me tell you that they both looked soooo amazing on! The only thing now was how my skin would react to it. I purchased the two along with their

Color Correcting Primer - Hydrate & Balance - Lavender,Mineral Glow,Color Correcting Primer - Prep & Perfect - Neutral, Chisel Makeup Brush   and they gave me a free trial of their  Dirty Girl detoxifying Mudd Mask. I spent about $110 I believe. Some of the items came in  kit making it even more affordable. Anyways I use the powder with the prep&prime primer on a daily basis and use the Foundation with Hydrate& balance on Special occasions or when I wanted look extra did up! These are the results! This is after a month and a half of using PUR Products. clear skin and scars all almost gone!!

 

 

Im really loving how my skin looks and feel. Its just one less thing for me to worry about! I feel Flawless. I never recommend anything if it truly doesn't work and PUR MINERAL products are so good for your skin and it looks amazing!

 

p.s. the mudd mask is amazeballs! My skin feels so bright and soft after using it! If you have any questions feel free to ask!

 

 



Fringed Skirt

Hello Darlings!

 

So here is the moments you've all been waiting for!! I purchased this skirt from H&M!!

 

Isn't it beautiful?!?!?!?! This is a part of H&Ms night out collection

Ill be posting different way to wear this out in the next two weeks so stay tuned!!!

get yours here: H&M

and remember to tag me if you do purchase this skirt!!!

 

MUAH!!!

 .......and for the peplum top I purchased it from H&M a couple of weeks ago but unfortunately they don't have it on their website. You guys might have to visit a store and check. =/
but ASOS carries a very similar top but in Black
 



Getting Ready for Chicago

Hey Loves!

 

     So as most of you know I'm taking a trip to CHICAGO!!! I'm so excited!! I love the cold weather!!! I have so many coats, scarves, boots, so many winter accessories I haven't worn in years! It never gets that cold here in California anymore. =( But anyways ill be posting all the items I will be buying for my trip here along with links and deets on where to get! If you ladies need ideas on outfits or how-tos leave a comment and ill be glad to help and make sure to tag me on pix wearing any of these items! I love seeing your pictures!! muah!!

Here are the first set of Items!

SO I purchased these because ive never been the type of girl to wear gym/workout sneakers as casual sneakers, but on my trip to Florida I was forced to wear gym sneakers because I forgot to pack shoes! lol anyways I totally loved the sporty look. So bought these to wear in Chicago with a graphic sweaters and a coat. Very sporty chic! lol (I love adding the chic to anything) plus the leopard print are statement enough so keep the rest of your outfit simple.

Got these from Footlocker

 

Ive been wanting Tims for a really long time now!! Ill definitely be needing these for my trip! I don't need to explain why right? lol

Got these from Shiekh Shoes

 

 

 

AAHHHHHH!!! I'm totally in Love with these boots!! I cant wait for them to get here so I can love them with all my heart!!! So I have cousins in Chicago and we will definitely be hitting a club or a bar. I needed a pair of high heel boots (to keep warm) that I can wear with a dress or a skirt. I'm a VIP member at JUSTFAB.COM and I had store credit so I checked their boot collection and ran into these babies! They are selling out fast so make sure to get yours ASAP!

Got these from Justfab.com

 

Coats are a must have for the winter, but cape coats make any simple outfit look so much more stylish......you'll be warm and you'll definitely look stylish. This isn't the original picture of the cape coat I got.......I got mine from H&M and it looks exactly like this one with out the tan buckles........they don't have it online anymore but you can call customer service @ 855-hnm-shop and give them these numbers 061855 and they'll be able to help you find it and ship it to you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fall Maxi

Hello Loves!!!!
Omg it's been too long since I've posted on me!! Grrr!!! I'm really trying to take this to a whole other level but it's hard since I'm so busy! Bare with me loves!! Anyways here's the winner of the Dress Giveaway!!!

@dayzz84 DM me your info Love!!

Love this dress!! Reason why I knew it would fit (work for my body) before even trying it on...

1. It stretches

2. Low v necklines. I don't have big boobs so Low v necklines make my boobs look sexy

3. The trim on the waist line. I'm pear shaped so the trim on the waist line accentuates my waist making it look smaller.

4. The slit in the dress. Duh I knew that would top of this sexy comfortable dress! Perfect for fall!!! 

We are it casually with booties and a cardigan or add heels and you are good to go!!

Here yours HERE

Love you guys!!!

Peplum Chic

Hello My beautiful babies!!

I apologize for not posting as often as I probably should be but its been a very hectic month!!

My broke my phone so I was phoneless for about a week and I lost all of my pix and info!! Waah!!

You guys can see on my IG I've also been very committed to my workouts and Ive been working so much!! But anyways i'm definitely gonna try and post at least once a week!

 

Anyways tell me why I feel so in love with these jeans that I had to buy 3 pairs!!

(I would have bought more but they only had 3 in my size -_-)

 

 

I really think that all the jeans look different but they are all the same style if that makes sense. Some are more destroyed than others.

 

 

Believe it or not these two jeans are the same jeans!! The one on the right hand was a tad bit more destroyed than the left and my thunder thigh finished destroying it! lol

These Boyfriend Jean actually fit, look good and are super comfortable!!

I've never had a pair a BF jeans fit like these! Im happy as a clam!! :)

 

 

You Can purchase these BF jeans @ Forever 21 Plus

 

 

There are two layers to this peplum top which I loved so much! you can really see it in the picture but if you follow the link you'll see what im talking about. The bottom layer was a tad bit tight but I loved it because it sucked everything making me look lean and smaller at the waist. Not to mention the beautiful pattern and color it was perfect for my lunch meeting today! ( reason why I added a light coat) Purchase yours @ H&M

 

 

Last but not least my Lolas!! These heels are crazy comfortable! I bought two pairs and definitely going back for more! It totally amps up any simple outfit!

Get yours!! @ Lola Shoetique

 

I love you guys soooo much!! Thank you for being a part of turning my dreams into a reality! Muah!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Date Night W/ Joggers

Hello Loves!!!

So I wore this outfit on a date last night. I chose this outfit for a couple reasons.

1. Red is my Favorite Color lol

2. These colors are perfect combo for summer

3. These pants are super simple yet stylish because of their relax fit. 

4. I know it summer and you want to wear less clothes, but I was going on a date so I wanted to look classy yet sassy. Reason why I paired these pants with a crop top just to show a lil somn somn.

5. I wanted to balance the sassy-ness from the crop top so I added this light cotton blazer.

6. Finally I felt that my outfit needed some print/edginess so I added my leopard print top!

I went on a late dinner date to a pretty nice place. (Reason why I dressed up a lil)

I definitely got a coup of compliment from my date!!!

The only item that I newly purchased are my pants! Everything else I pulled out of my closet but I found similar items for you guys to purchase to duplicate this outfit! 

Heels: Similar

Blazer: Similar

Crop Top: Similar

Joggers: Similar

Fierceness: (insert your name)

YOU ARE A PERFECT VERSION OF YOU!

MUAH !!

Pink Kiss

Hello My Loves!!

 

 

So I completely fell in love with this outfit!! Its definitely out of the norm for me but as soon as I saw the pants I knew we would be together for the rest of our lives!! lol

This outfit for perfect for yesterdays weather!! Its so hot here California now so the fact that I was able to just throw this one on and feel like a million bucks all while being super comfortable was amazing!! Both the top and bottoms are a light cotton and stretchy meaning it allowed a sista to breath!! lol

I totally love the color combo! The pants came with a bright yellow which I believe looked amazing!! but the pink top definitely toned it down! TRY BOTH!! I've always loved mixing girly items with masculine/Edgy items! and that is definitely was I did here!!



Lace up Heels from Lola Shoetique!!!!

I Couldn't Find the exact top I have online but I found this Similar One. Im sure if you go to H&M you'll find it! It in their Red Divided Section.

And finally here's the Link to these Gorgeous Pants!!! They are a loose fit! which is perfect for us Plus size beauties!! And they also have other patterns!!! Hope you guys go out and buy this outfit and that you love it as much as I do!!!

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL SO STAY BEAUTIFUL!! MUAH!! 

 

 

 

 

 



Floral Print Maxi Dress

Hello Loves!!!

 

So its summer and its that time for summer dresses!!! I'm totally in love with this maxi dress from Forever21+!!! I feel like it totally captures the essence of summer with this gorg/bright print!



What I also Love about this dress is the neckline! I have broad shoulders and this type of neckline makes them look smaller...

It also has a slit in it which totally adds a dash of sexy!

 

Im also loving that its long enough!!!! Im 5'7" and its hard to find dresses that are long enough to cover my toes!!! (I likr them long!)

Just throw this lil thang on and you're set to go!!

DRESS IS FROM:Forever 21+

God Bless! Muah!!